Darren has posted up a suggestion on how individuals can get more out of (and consequently add more too) technical communities by attending regular dinners with a set group of people (up to about ten).
The thing that would appeal to me about participating in a forum like this is that it would be possible to get familiar with the various challenges people are facing, and share experiences and advice. Over time a level of trust would be built up amongst the group which is where the real challenges get shared – I think.
I’d love to get involved in one of these groups, maybe you should assemble a group of peers like Darren is suggesting too?